Stop Complaining and Start Changing

Let’s be real: complaining about your life while doing absolutely nothing to change it is insanity. I hear it all the time—"My friends use me. My partner doesn’t love me. My job treats me poorly." But let’s call it what it is: these are reflections of you. The energy you carry and the way you feel about yourself are showing up in the people and situations around you. The truth? Until you decide to make a change, nothing will change. Yes, it’s hard. But you know what else is hard? Staying stuck. Living in chaos. Accepting less than you deserve. Pick your hard. If you’re tired of getting cheated on, why are you still with the person doing the cheating? If your job disrespects you, why aren’t you looking for better? Change takes conscious effort—every single day. It’s about setting intentions, building habits, and having the willpower to follow through. I get it—it’s not easy. It wasn’t easy for me either. But I made a choice, and every day I continue to make it. Some of you will read this and say, "But it’s different for me." No, it’s not. The process is hard for everyone. Growth doesn’t come wrapped in comfort. And here’s the kicker: sometimes, growth means separating yourself from people you love. Not because you don’t care, but because you refuse to stay stuck in cycles of mediocrity. I’ve had to let go of friends, not out of hate but out of love for myself. I see where their choices will lead them, and I refuse to follow. You’ve got two choices: stay where you are or start doing the hard work to create the life you want. Complaining won’t get you there, but courage and consistency will.